Rocks!

One of my long term goals is to re-line the old garden beds, edge out some new ones for wildlife sanctuary purposes, and to put in several stone pathways as part of the “get rid of this damned lawn and turn it into something nicer and not a drain on natural resources. Also, I hate mowing, and the less grass there is, the less I have to mow. My dislike of “lawn culture” is pretty epic. Of course, all of this requires a vast quantity of suitable rocks and pavers, and I have an aversion to paying for rocks.

My plan is to avoid having to pay for as many of them as I can get away with. Part of that plan involves teaming up with other friends and relatives who have the opposite problem: a pile of rocks in their yards that they don’t want, but don’t want to pay someone to take away, because paying for ROCKS is ridiculous.

I mentioned this plan on FB, figuring I’d get a couple buckets of rocks, and maybe a slate or two, and OMG, ONE OF MY FRIENDS AND HIS WIFE HAVE A CRAPLOAD OF PAVERS SLATE AND GRANITE PAVERS. Like, this is going to take several trips to get. I hit the motherfucking JACKPOT, and I am SO EXCITED I can’t even. In one shot, I’m going to have enough pavers to either completely do one of the walkways or line out the complete pathways for the eventual potager garden that I’m planning to build in the side yard. The photo is only the first trip that we made this afternoon, and there’s probably going to be two or three more trips to get all of them. (My truck isn’t a heavy duty vehicle, sadly, or I’d be able to do it in fewer trips.)

I also recently registered the property as part of the NWF’s wildlife habitat network, mostly to get the sign to put up to let people know that yes, the weeds, high grass, and unraked leaves are deliberate, and not that I’m letting the place go to hell. One of the reasons that I want rocks is I’m going to use them to designate sections of the yard where grasses, flowering “weeds”, and other food/shelter plants will be planted and allowed to do their thing in a controlled manner so that it looks neater, while creating a micro-system where native flora and fauna can thrive. Over time, I plan to have the beds be made up of exclusively native plants. I have no intention of ceding the property to the wildlife, but I do intend to make it so that we can all cohabitate on the land in a more equitable manner for everyone who lives here, not just the humans. Plus, every house that makes provisions for the local flora and fauna helps combat habitat loss and improves the overall environment. If the neighbors complain about the spikes of evening primrose and clusters of joe-pye-weed, well, I’m siding with the butterflies and the families of wrens and cardinals that also live here.

Sweeping Out The Cobwebs

That was a far longer hiatus than I’d planned when I originally started writing this. A LOT has happened in the meantime. Like, good gods.

Just weeks after my last post, the job I was working at reached critical mass on toxic bullshit, and we parted ways. Becoming unemployed immediately after buying a house is, um, exciting. Thankfully we had the money set aside and allocated for the immediate repairs we’d had to do, but still, yikes.

(I’m now a somewhat self-employed blogger and artist, but not yet making enough to contribute much, which is frustrating. Still working on building that up.)

My step-mom passed away two years ago this past February. She never did get to see the house. We had Dad over for dinner a couple of times, but then Covid-19 hit and we haven’t been able to see each other since. With vaccines finally getting rolled out that will hopefully change soon.

Last fall we did a major exterior renovation, and the house now has entirely new siding and a brand new roof. Got that done, just in time, too, as the roof started leaking literally three days before the roofers were scheduled to show up. Gods, that was a project and a half. It was supposed to take no more than 9 days, and ended up taking a month and some change before they finally finished everything and got the damned debris cleaned up. So glad I will most likely never have to deal with that mess again.

Sadly, the next-door neighbor, Dan, who was really sweet and had grown up in his house passed away this past winter, just after Christmas. Not sure what his kids plan on doing with the house, but I wish they’d hurry up. Houses don’t do well being empty, and Dan loved that house too much for it to fall apart.

Most of the plans I’d originally had for our yard had to be put on hold for a year or two, because holy gods, it was in worse shape than I’d realized.

The soil turned out to be so amazingly stripped of anything beneficial, that mowing was all but impossible in sections. There was so little root system that the mower would literally push the grass layer off in strips because they only went down maybe half an inch and the sod had no structural integrity at all. There were sections of bare hardpack in the back yard, and ffs, there’s still a layer of sand-and-weed covered LANDSCAPING PAPER in the side yard.

We lost control of the side yard by the stream almost immediately, because when the replacement oil tank was brought in, it had been raining for several days and the mud was so bad that the ground got mangled badly enough that I wasn’t able to get the mower through it and the jewelweed and other plant life took over.

I basically gave up mowing most of the yard for two summers. No raking was done. The yard desperately needed time to just sit and compost and grow roots. There’ll be time enough to deal with the wreckage.

That time is this year. We got the worst of the hedges trimmed back to reasonable heights last fall so that the construction crews could actually get through them. I’m probably going to cut them back even more this year, and remove a couple of things. I also want to at least get an estimate on poison ivy removal, because there are several aggressive stands that are beyond anything my allergic ass wants to tangle with, that are preventing me from dealing with some of the invasives that are eating half the property line.

I’m in the process of collecting rocks to edge the garden beds with and to start working on lining out sections that will be left alone as wildlife habitat. There’s a decent amount of native plants that I want to encourage to grow, but I also don’t want to live in a feral mess, either. I figure that I’ll let the really steep hill section do it’s thing, until we can hopefully get it graded properly, and that way the wildlife gets food and shelter, and I don’t have to drag the lawnmower on a 45 degree incline.

The front yard will be having an unmown swath up by the road, which will eventually be planted with native grasses and wildflowers to deal with road runoff. It’s already a partial rain-garden, I’m just going to encourage it in that endeavor. The flat, wide side yard will be getting the landscaping paper ripped out and several raised beds for food gardening will be put in. I’ve been working on designing the layout based on medieval gardens. Eventually I would like to put in a fence around the front and side, to both delineate between our yard and the neighbors’, but also to train climbing flowers and/or bramble fruits to run along.

I’m working on what to do with the front bed where the roses are, since the roses are doing Very Badly, and I’m not sure I’m up to the task of saving them. We’ll see. I’m trying to find my gauntlets so I can work on getting them pruned and the other plants that are trying to eat them cleared up. The last people put several inches of MULCH right up around their canes and then failed to remove things like trees that took root, so each bush is going to take a lot of up-close work to free up, and then I’ve still got to deal with the overabundance of old mulch before I can even figure out what’s next.

So many plans. So much work to do, but eventually this place is going to be transformed into a little witchy heaven, full of native flora and fauna, and a gorgeous garden. It’s just going to take time and work.

Harvest, Hearth, and Home

As is tradition, I am accidentally preparing my home for the winter on the Autumn Equinox.  I don’t mean to follow the seasons as closely as I do, but I’ve always done it without realizing it.  This year, though, it means so much more.  It’s my home, and I will never have to leave it again.

It needs work, and this year’s harvest involves so much painting and repair work to get the house ready for winter.  We’ve got about half of the painting done, so it’s no longer an awful yellow/grey combination, but is instead turning shades of sage, and sand, and good, red clay, with blues and verdigris throughout.  The bedroom floor that had been ruined by the previous owner’s dog is almost a third of the way to being replaced (it’s being ripped out at the moment, and will soon have an all new one).  There’s a service tech coming over on Monday to take a look at the oil tank and see what it’s going to run us to replace it, so that we can have heat for the winter, and once that and my truck’s repairs are taken care of, I’ll be seeing about getting someone to take a look at the chimney so we can find out if the fireplace will be usable this year, or if that will be a next year project.

The yard is basically on it’s own this fall, which, given it’s state of nutrient-starvation and disarray, isn’t the worst thing for it.  It could use a good fallow time to recover from years of neglect and ignorance of how to properly care for it.

It’s the Autumn Equinox, and this harvest this year is a good one.  I look forward to having my loved ones at my table, in my  kitchen, in my home, that I am working hard to make sure is as comfortable and inviting as I can.

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Winding Down The Road

The house buying continues apace.  The mortgage loan people continue to have serious communication issues, and have now started being out of the office All The Time, which is even more stress inducing because we’re not finished with that part, and we close in 3 weeks.  They keep going “don’t worry, there’s 3 weeks!  That’s plenty of time!” and I want to scream “IT WOULD BE, EXCEPT I DON’T KNOW HOW MANY MORE THINGS NEED TO BE DEALT WITH ON YOUR END, AND IT TAKES MORE OR LESS A FULL WEEK TO GET ANY KIND OF RESPONSE FROM YOU, AND THEN I FIND OUT THAT SOMETHING ELSE IS MISSING.  AT SOME POINT YOU NEED TO LIGHT A FIRE UNDER YOUR ASS BECAUSE I’M NOT LOSING THIS HOUSE BECAUSE YOU PEOPLE COULDN’T GET IT TOGETHER.”

I’m not, because I’m trying to learn to keep my temper under control, but my gods I am so ready for this process to be done so I can move on to getting my house the repairs it needs before we can move in, and being out of the apartment before the lease ends.

The apartment complex is being another source of aggravation, as they keep having this fascinating idea that we’re going to pay for professional cleaners, instead of cleaning it ourselves and are trying a whole lot of bullshit tactics to try and bully us into it.  They keep finding out that I am far too familiar with my state’s tenant’s rights laws.  The tenants are not responsible for anything above and beyond normal wear and tear, and making sure things are reasonably clean, especially 1 year, and we’ve been here for more than 3.  They want to have it professionally cleaned and repainted after we move, that’s their responsibility.

I’d really hoped that my last time living in an apartment would end on a pleasant note, but no..apparently it’s going to end on the same note as every other apartment I’ve lived in, and that is a lot of bullshit and aggravation to get my stupid security deposit back, but no.  We’re going to make sure I have no questions about whether or not the responsibilities and expenses of home ownership and permanent roots was the right plan.  (Not dealing with this crap year after year was really high on the list of reasons to stop renting, because while I know good landlords exist, I’ve had very few of them, and never for long.  Getting too old for this shit.)

On the upside, though, we have just under 3 weeks to go, the official signing-fest has been scheduled, as has the final walkthrough.  Aside from the cleaning fight, the rest of the paperwork obligations to the complex have been finished, as has pretty much everything else for the actual purchasing.  I’ve got a solid lead on a company to come deal with the poison ivy problem in the side yard of the house, and am working on finding a decent carpet replacement company.  Sometime in the next couple of weeks, the Great Collecting Of Boxes and Packing All The Things will begin.

 

I’m so ready for this to be done, so we can finally go home.

Purgatory Is Waiting For Other People

I live in the Purgatory of Waiting For People To Respond To Emails.

Himself and I are buying a house (yay! A forest of our own!).  Or rather, we’re trying to buy a house, but other people keep being unresponsive to emails, and various other things, and since we’re trying to also do this around difficult job-related reasons that negate phone calls (which are also being difficult to get responses to), this is being ridiculously aggravating.

My day job is also filled with people who are failing to response to emails in a reasonable time frame.  My existence is entirely waiting for other people to answer a simple damned question.

So far, I have decided that, much like weddings, house buying is not stressful.  OTHER PEOPLE involved in house-buying are stressful as fuck.

 

I’m trying to remember to breathe, because at the end of this, there’s a little red ranch with 1/3 acre of land, some trees, and space for gardens, a screened porch, and room to have friends over, and it is home.

Crossroads Whispers

There’s over a foot of snow outside my living room window from today’s nor’easter, the temps are plummeting back to the single/negative numbers again, andI really just want to light the pumpkin lamps, have cider and candy corn cookies, and consider witchy business plans while the wind howls at the dark.

Into The Woods

The first steps onto any new path are always the most difficult.  Do you go right?  Do you go left?  Do you go straight ahead?  Starting this is like that.

Even when I was little, aeons ago, it was assumed that all little girls should love pink and want to be princesses (never queens, mind you, because queens have too much power, unless they are dead) and dress up in fancy dresses and have tea parties.  Girls didn’t squelch through the mud chasing frogs or collect bones or hate pink dresses.  I hated dresses, pink or otherwise.  I hated tea parties, and I really hated princesses.  Princesses were useless, in my opinion, and always in need of saving.

Me? I wanted to be the witch.

The witch didn’t conform.  She didn’t need saving.  She strung bones onto strings and wore them as necklaces and ate the people who dared challenge her for not being pretty and useless.  She knew things.  Magic things.   Secret things.  Powerful things.  She didn’t wait for a prince to save her, the princes came to her and asked for her help.  She lived in the woods and did as she pleased.

I very much wanted to be her.  From a pretty early age I figured out that the reason the witch scared people, was because she was outside of society and didn’t care.  She didn’t feel the need to conform to other people’s expectations of her, and so they couldn’t control her.  Society fears what it can’t control, and well, it didn’t do a very good job of making me mind, either.

The witch, you see, told me that it was perfectly possible to not be a princess and live a good, long, happy life all the same.  After all, she was old, wasn’t she? She knew the secret to living quite happily outside societal expectations of what people should be, and they were found in the forest, like her.

I’m not as young as I was then, and I’ve decided that it’s time to fill a bag with a bit of travel snacks, find myself a good, stout walking stick, and see what I can find in the woods.  Not sure where the forest path will lead, but I know it will be worth the walk.  After all, the woods are where we witches go…